About

Many of my clients begin therapy to explore their gender identities and expressions. Often, they have a strong sense that there are identifiable, actionable changes that could help them feel more secure in themselves, but are facing some kind of barrier—either external and/or self-created—that prevents them from moving toward lasting change. Together we explore how to move through those barriers into a liberated identity space of gender embodiment.

For some clients, gender embodiment is the main focus of our work together. For others, it is an entry point to discussing additional salient identities and significant aspects of their lives. This might include dating as a trans or non-binary person, coming out at work, finding friends with shared identities or experiences, making sense of being trans in different cultural settings, and/or learning to embrace masculinity and/or femininity in healthy ways. The focus of therapy may change over the course of our treatment depending on shifting needs. However it goes, I’ll be with you along the way.

I feel especially passionate about working with trans folks who have been deeply harmed by the medical industrial complex. I also feel pulled toward this work in the ongoing violent political climate in the U.S. With persistent threats to trans people’s basic rights, being in a space where you can freely explore all the different parts of yourself with another trans person can feel loving and transformative.

  • Gender affirming therapy is an opportunity to be seen in full.

  • To indulge in delight and be celebrated for who you are, exactly as you are.

  • To be brave with asserting your needs.

  • To play with a multitude of possibilities.

  • To heal from heterosexism, cisgender normativity, and harmful masculinity.

  • To make sense of both inherited fear and resilience from genderqueer ancestors.

  • To feel abundant.

  • To make room for joy, power, pleasure, love, and community.

  • I can't wait to see how you'll shine in your truth.

Continue to write, speak, exist, live. Not just to show the world that we’re here. But to show one another that we are. That gender non-conforming life is possible. And beautiful.

Alok Vaid-Menon

Areas of focus

Based on your unique needs, gender affirming therapy may include exploration of:

  • Inclusive language for gender identity/identities and pronouns

  • Affirming name(s), if different from given name

  • Affirming gender expressions

  • Cultural expectations of how to be in the world

  • Normalization of uncertainty and ambiguity in gender exploration

  • Internalized and external transphobia

  • Fears of being a trans person in the world, whether or not you’re “out”

  • Gender dysphoria

  • Gender euphoria

  • Decisions around hormone therapy, if desired

  • Decisions around gender affirming surgeries, if desired

  • Letter-writing for surgery approval

  • Navigation of healthcare systems

  • Community-building

  • Potential rejection from existing communities

  • Decisions around coming out or not

  • Self-advocacy within families, friendships, partnerships, work, and school settings

  • Sex, pleasure, and other kinds of safe intimate touch

  • Intersections of gender with other salient identities