About
Many of my clients begin therapy to explore their gender identities and expressions. Often, they have a strong sense that there are identifiable, actionable changes that could help them feel more secure in themselves, but are facing some kind of barrier—either external and/or self-created—that prevents them from moving toward lasting change. Together we explore how to move through those barriers into a liberated identity space of gender embodiment.
For some clients, gender embodiment is the main focus of our work together. For others, it is an entry point to discussing additional salient identities and significant aspects of their lives. This might include dating as a trans or non-binary person, coming out at work, finding friends with shared identities or experiences, making sense of being trans in different cultural settings, and/or learning to embrace masculinity and/or femininity in healthy ways. The focus of therapy may change over the course of our treatment depending on shifting needs. However it goes, I’ll be with you along the way.
I feel especially passionate about working with trans folks who have been deeply harmed by the medical industrial complex. I also feel pulled toward this work in the ongoing violent political climate in the U.S. With persistent threats to trans people’s basic rights, being in a space where you can freely explore all the different parts of yourself with another trans person can feel loving and transformative.
Continue to write, speak, exist, live. Not just to show the world that we’re here. But to show one another that we are. That gender non-conforming life is possible. And beautiful.
Alok Vaid-Menon
Areas of focus
Based on your unique needs, gender affirming therapy may include exploration of:
Inclusive language for gender identity/identities and pronouns
Affirming name(s), if different from given name
Affirming gender expressions
Cultural expectations of how to be in the world
Normalization of uncertainty and ambiguity in gender exploration
Internalized and external transphobia
Fears of being a trans person in the world, whether or not you’re “out”
Gender dysphoria
Gender euphoria
Decisions around hormone therapy, if desired
Decisions around gender affirming surgeries, if desired
Letter-writing for surgery approval
Navigation of healthcare systems
Community-building
Potential rejection from existing communities
Decisions around coming out or not
Self-advocacy within families, friendships, partnerships, work, and school settings
Sex, pleasure, and other kinds of safe intimate touch
Intersections of gender with other salient identities